Alice* is 25 and lives in Sittingbourne. She lives in a house which is owned by a local housing association. Both she and her partner, Ben, are on the tenancy agreement. Alice and Ben have two children, one is six and attends the local primary school and the other is three and a half.
Alice and Ben got together when she was 17 and he was 19. He was her first boyfriend and was completely charming. A few months into the relationship he started getting a bit jealous when she spent time with her family or friends. He said he felt left out and that her family didn’t like him because he was struggling to get a job. He started checking her phone, getting angry when there were messages from other men on there-even if it was a colleague at work texting about a work matter. Once he got so angry he smashed the phone down on the kitchen side
Then Alice got pregnant. Ben lost his job and he got depressed. He would call her names, make her feel ugly and said it was just as well she got pregnant as she wouldn’t have been clever enough for college anyway.
One night, Alice tried to talk back. She said he couldn’t keep speaking to her like that and taking her phone from her and always coming with her, even when she went to the shops. Ben got angry and pushed heavily pregnant Alice against the wall. Luckily the baby was ok. Alice didn’t talk back again.
Fast forward to two years ago. After years of emotional and physical abuse, Alice split up with Ben. She got a new partner. She did the freedom programme and felt well supported to ignore his constant messages and abuse. However once the freedom programme ended and that support had to come to an end, she stopped feeling strong. Eventually, after death threats to both her and her new partner from Ben, Alice split up with the new partner and Ben moved back into the flat.
Today, Alice is experiencing the same abuse as before . She is afraid. She is afraid of what he might do to her if he doesn’t get his way. She is afraid of how it will affect the children. She is afraid of getting back together with him because she wont feel safe or strong enough to not.
How could SATEDA help Alice?
- A visit to our One Stop Shop where she can get a friendly face to talk to and advice on finance from a CAB advisor.
- One to One support
- Freedom Progamme
- Freedom follow on programme
- My Space referral to support her son.
What’s the problem?
All of this will cost £1385 in total, or £115.41 per month. As you know, money doesn’t grow on trees and SATEDA gets no government or core funding to carry out this vital and quite literally life-saving work. Without income, we will not be able to support Alice and others like her to become free from domestic violence. Her situation will remain behind closed doors, as will she. And her children.
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Read Alice’s full story here: Alice_ClientProfile