Does It Feel Wrong?

Does It Feel Wrong? is designed to help you learn to spot the signs of a toxic relationship and seek support.

Welcome to Does It Feel Wrong?

Does It Feel Wrong? is a SATEDA project created especially for teenagers who may be entering their first relationships. We know that navigating relationships can feel confusing and overwhelming, and you may not always know whether what you’re experiencing is healthy. We’re here to change that.

Our mission is to help young people recognise the signs of unhealthy relationships, understand that abuse is never their fault, and remember that they deserve respect and healthy love. Many teenagers pick up harmful behaviours from an abusive parent without even realising it, allowing unhealthy cycles to repeat. This campaign exists to break that cycle.

SATEDA offers a confidential and non-judgemental space where teenagers can learn, ask questions, and get support if they need it. Whether you’re unsure about something in your own relationship or want to help a friend, we’re here to help you.

You deserve to feel safe and a relationship that feels right.

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If you’re a teenager navigating your first relationships, or someone who wants to support friends and peers, our Instagram page is here for you. We share tips on spotting the warning signs of toxic relationships, relatable scenarios, and real-life stories which are all aimed at helping you understand what healthy love looks like.

Our page is also a space for young people to learn, and contribute to a community that’s working to break the cycle of domestic abuse and gender-based violence.

Please only follow us if it is safe for you to do so.

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Toxic relationships are very common among teenagers.

Where relationships start blossoming, so does the potential for abuse so it’s really, really important to know what’s healthy and what’s not.

Here are some red and green flags to look out for in your romantic relationships and in your friends’.

🚩 tries to embarrass me in front of others

🚩 avoids being seen with me at school 

🚩 looks through my phone & social media

🚩 blocks me after any disagreement

🚩 shares personal info about me to others without my permission

🚩 makes fun of my friends to me

🚩 tells me what to wear

🚩 pressures me to send nudes or do things I’m not comfortable doing

🚩 won’t commit but expects me to

🚩 borrows my money all the time without paying me back

🚩 lies and hides things from me

✅ is my biggest cheerleader

✅ compliments me and makes me feel confident and empowered

✅ respects my friends and family

✅ respects my subject choices at school

✅ is happy to communicate through disagreements

✅ makes me laugh and feel emotionally, physically, sexually and intimately comfortable

✅ cares about my opinion

✅ listens to and respects my needs and boundaries

✅ seeks to understand me and shares with me

✅ owns up to any wrongdoing and apologises without getting defensive

✅ communicates openly and truthfully with me

Need support?

If you think you’re in a toxic relationship, we can support you. We deliver a programme called Choose Liberty which helps you reconnect with yourself and understand the blurred lines in a relationship.

We want you to feel empowered in your relationships, not anxious or confused.

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Checking in with them

If you’ve been worried about a friend lately, here’s how you might gently try to start a conversation. The most important thing is to actively listen to what they say, and make them feel heard even if you might not agree with what they are saying. Your reassurance and support could be really life-changing for them. For more in depth information on how to support a friend click here.

Hey b, wanna come meet me by the bench at lunch? i miss eating with u! it's been weeks

I'm not feeling v well x

What's up? Is it about M being out of order this morning in assembly? I saw what they did and I'm always here to chat 💕

They were just being stupid it's ok xx

I hear you. I think that would've hurt me tbh. Just looking out for you because i wanna see u smiling and happyyyy 😊 I've noticed u looking a bit low lately

Ur sweet, I'm ok I promise - it's just banter, and they're not like that when we're out of school. Think they do it cuz the others are there 🙄 x

Hmm banter can be pretty hurtful. And it's not the first time I've seen them being kinda disrespectful to u like that u know. I'm not judging - just know I'm here if u wanna chat. Just got to the bench and I have a crappy sandwich to share lol 💖

Ok I'll come there in 5 x

See u soon. I've got you x

Actually babe sorry M's just called, they wanna have lunch with me now.. x

That's ok, I'll see you in class later 😊 love u

Want to volunteer on this awareness campaign?

We’re looking for 14 -18 year olds to brainstorm and create trauma informed, relevant and creative content about healthy and unhealthy relationships for their generation. Do you have… (don’t need them all, just a few!)

♀ An interest in women’s rights?
👩🏻‍🤝‍👩🏾 Knowledge of first relationships?
🤳🏽 Knowledge of social media trends among teens?
✊🏽 An understanding of intersectionality?
💡 Creative flair and ideas?
✍🏿 Copy-writing skills?
📱 TikTok video and Instagram Reel making skills?
😄 Good vibes and passion?

Under 16: Parental consent form Over 16: Register as a volunteer